Writing an Obituary

What To Include?

Naturally, it is vital that the full name, age, city of residence and the location and date of passing is included so that there is no confusion over whom has died. You may wish to consider placing a photograph (which can appear as black & white or in most newspaper's layout) with the text. There are usually charges for the text length and extra charges applied if you are thinking of using a photograph.

In a concise manner, write about the significant events in the life of the deceased. This may include memberships, vocations or interests that the deceased was involved with.

Survivors

It is common to include a list of those who have survived the deceased. The list should include (where applicable):

• Spouse and children
• Parents (living)
• Adopted children
• Half & step children
• Siblings
• Half & step siblings
• Grandparents (living)

The surviving relatives listed above may be listed by name. Other relatives will not be mentioned by name but may be included in terms of their relationship to the deceased. In other words, the obituary may mention that the deceased had 5 grandchildren; 7 nieces etc. However, exceptions to the above rule can be made if, for example, the deceased only had one grandchild or a nephew who was the only person living in the newspaper's distribution area. These exceptions are obviously made based on each individual case.

Also, anyone listed as a special friend or companion is not normally included amongst the list of survivors unless the deceased's blood relatives request that it be so. The obituary's traditional purpose is to list survivors either related through the bloodline or marriage.

Additional information such as where the body will be laid to rest and any pallbearer's names or names of honorary pallbearer's may be mentioned.

At this point list the details of the time and location of any services for the deceased: these may include the funeral, burial, wake and memorial service where appropriate.

Some Do's & Don'ts

If you don't know where to start, do read other obituaries to gain an idea of how personal and touching an obituary may be.

Do not utilize the phrase "lie in state" as that only applies to a head of state such as the prime minister or president.

Using the phrase "In lieu of flowers, memorials may be made to..." should be used if a particular charity, church or organization is highly important to be remembered. "Memorial donations may be made to…" suggests that both memorials or flowers may be sent.

Do consider if you wish to send the obituary to newspapers in other cities e.g. to a town where the deceased may have resided previously. Obtain copies of the obituary to send to distant relatives and friends.

Final Considerations

Be available to proofread carefully the obituary you (or a combination of you and the funeral home together) have prepared.

Seeing as most newspapers charge by the word when placing an obituary, it may not always be feasible to mention everything that we have stated in our guidelines. Usually the larger the newspaper's circulation the more cost will be involved.  Use your own discretion and do not put yourself under any financial hardship. Your loved one would understand.  Remember there is no right or wrong length, only what you really want is most important.